The 36 Questions: Do they work?

A few years ago I came across an article that stated some psychologists had found 36 questions that could make people fall in love with you. I, being the ambitious lonely person I was, decided that I should take these questions with me to meet with a friend and see if I really could make someone fall in love with me over 36 questions.

The questions are divided in to equal thirds, with each third getting gradually more difficult and stirring up emotions and memories that people don't regularly share with one another.

The first twelve questions went smoothly. My friend and I already knew most of these things about one another. There were a couple of questions that made us chuckle, and we moved pretty quickly through this section.

The second set of questions made us slow down more. We spent more time listening to what the other had to say. We shared more personal memories and things that broke down our emotional barriers further. We may have been sitting in a public cafeteria, but we were in our own little corner of the world.

The final set of twelve brought out deep memories from early childhood. We were led to talk about what really led us to becoming the people we were on that day, and each answer dragged out into its own sub conversation. Some questions made us giggle, but most of them brought up sad memories that neither of us had really thought about for a while. I cried, he cried, and we both felt better for it.

At the end of the questions we discussed why I thought it was necessary to go through this process, and what I had hoped to get out of it. I may not have gotten a boyfriend out of my experience, but the person and I know that no matter where we go in life, or what happens, we will have each other's backs. This young man is a great friend and a very important person in my life, and I'm glad we were able to get deeper with each other through these questions.

I highly suggest these 36 questions as a way to make a more meaningful connection with someone. I don't know whether or not they'll decide to date you, but I know you'll be grateful to have someone to open up to.

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